Home for Wayward Sluts: November 2014 http://kinkunveiled.blogspot.ca/?zx=8dcd321b700cd6d8

Friday, 21 November 2014

Bettie Page: last years and Hugh Hefner

[Continued from Bettie Page's Mental Breakdown ]

The notorious Bettie Page, found herself released from a mental institution years after stabbing her landlord multiple times in a schizophrenic episode. When she was released, she found herself completely broke and destitute.  It was around this time that she was contacted by the President of the Bettie Scouts of America who had been searching for her -- informed her that she was loved and adored by millions. She had no idea.

Steven, president of the Bettie Page fan club took her to a book store and showed her an entire end cap filled with Bettie Page items, books, statues, lighters and other paraphernalia. He told her that surely her fans would help her out if she just asked. Steven even arranged for her to meet with Hugh Hefner. So in 1993 she went to the Playboy mansion (where Hef had banned cameras because Hef is the most gracious man that ever walked the planet and knew Bettie didn't want to be photographed). Hugh talked to her and found out that she was broke but also not receiving any compensation for any of the items being sold with her image. He arranged for legal representation for her and put her in contact with more appropriate
business partners so that she had "the right kind of representation and someone to look after her and take care of her... and we've been very close ever since." (that's a direct quote from Hef because he is the best! God I love that man. I didn't know that he helped Bettie out like this but of course he did! He's a my hero for a reason. Thank you Hef, thank you for helping out Bettie Page in her time of need.)

Thanks to Hef, Bettie made far far more money in the later years of her life than she made the whole rest of her life. Her agent saw to it that merchandise bearing her likeness paid her a royalty and she had approval on the products that could bear her likeness.

Meanwhile, Victoria secret designers credit Bettie Page with inspiring recent lines of the Victoria Secret's lingerie. And 20 year old girls have Bettie Page tattoos. As Hef says, "Bettie Page saw sex as a normal, healthy part of life. And she helped to change the values of our times."

Bettie Page near the end of her life

Monday, 3 November 2014

Bettie Page's Mental Breakdown

[Continued from What Really Happened to Bettie Page]
Part of the explanation for how and why Bettie Page went from a pin up icon, bondage queen and playboy centerfold to disappearing completely was she found religion and went into a very religious surrounding. Beyond that, her life took a turn for the worse with mental illness that kept her out of the spotlight.

Bettie Page went to Peabody's Teacher's College in 1965. Then she got tired of it all and in 1966 went to Miami and started going out dancing again. One night she met Harry E. Lear, "She didn't look like a model of any kind. But she was just a healthy looking young lady. She looked like a nice person. So I went up to her and asked her to dance. And we danced. And we danced. And we danced all night. She was the most unpretentious person I have ever met."

Bettie_Page_50s_iconOne day they went out to a pier together and Harry spotted a postcard with Bettie on it. He showed it
to her and she explained that she had been a model and had even posed nude. That didn't make any difference to Harry except he liked he more now. Harry had 2 boys and girl...exactly what Bettie had always dreamed of.  They got married on Valentines Day 1967.

Harry provided a good house for Bettie and the kids. "He was a hard worker and a good provider. And he was good lover too. He was very considerate of me and thinking of my pleasure before his own." And he also put an addition on that had a concrete roof area that was closed off so she could sunbathe nude.

But things weren't great. The kids didn't really accept her at all once she moved in with Harry and his ex-wife kept calling at all times of the day and night harassing her.  Bettie sought refuge in the Lord and started going to church more and more. Finally, Bettie had had enough and after sticking it out for 5 years she got divorced on January 18th, 1972.

Then she went up to 70 miles North to Bible Town. There, she started hearing voices of both God and devil in her head.  She lost a lot of weight because she was not eating. The voices she heard got so extreme that she couldn't sleep at all because they were talking to her all the time. Eventually, her mind snapped.

Bettie_Page_bunny_yeagerThe police called Harry and asked if he could come pick her up and take care of her. He knew that Florida was not a good place to be mentally ill and took her into his come. The voices plagued Bettie and at one point, she got out a knife and threaten him that saying that if he looked away from the painting of Jesus she would cut his guts out. After a bit, he pleaded with Bettie saying that he needed to go to the bathroom really badly. When she granted him permission to go relieve himself, he called the police. When the police came, she went with them peacefully with a blank look on her face.

After booking her, they took her to the psych ward of Jackson Memorial Hospital. There she received Florazine which made her feel like dying...but 'they knocked the voices right out of her head. After a bit of treatment, she had just enough money to fly out to California and meet her brother Jimmy Page (not of Led Zeppelin). But Jimmy didn't show up.

Went she got a place out in California she soon lost it again. When trying to get rent receipts from her landlord, she heard voices from the devil telling her all sorts of awful things. She took a knife and knocked the landlord to the ground and told her that she was going to cut her up. For some reason, the lady did not like that. She resisted and got cut severely on her hands. Then Bettie stabbed her 20 times before the landlord got away.

The worst photo every of Bettie -- on probably the worst day
of her life. :'(

Not surprisingly, Bettie was charged with attempted murder. She pleaded insanity and was ordered committed for 10 years. She when to Patton Hospital for therapy and drugs. There she was diagnosed as paranoid schizophrenic.  Haunted by demons of her past (which one assumes must include the abuse of her father, gang rape and her husband trying to kill her) she was finally released...completely broke.

Sunday, 2 November 2014

Jian Ghomeshi

I did a post a few days ago on BDSM and Consent and the Law and apparently I was completely mistaken. My sexpet informed me that she's seen multiple incriminating reports about CBC Radio host Jian Ghomeshi pointing to him being, in the words of my slave, 'a douche dom'.

First off his PR firm dropped him...which is never a good sign considering they will generally help smooth over that appearance you had at a Klu Klux Klan meeting (sidenote: those ignorant hillbillies should have checked the dictionary in order to spell clan correctly before getting their stationary printed up and then saying, 'aww fuck it, it let's just keep it with 3 Ks." )   Jian apparently made uninvited advances to coworkers and had a complete inability to read the situation.  And calling yourself a Dom does not excuse you from being an asshole.  Dom's are supposed to, in my humble opinion, convince and charm their subs into voluntarily giving up control. Not just take it from girls who are not necessarily into BDSM.

It's sort of the difference between knowing that girls like their hair pulled and then grabbing their hair in the heat of passion during sex -- or just surprising them by grabbing their hair as they walk by in the office.  

Or, in the case of Jian Ghomeshi, saying, 'I want to hate fuck you' (which could be used as hot phrase with the proper build up) who turned it into a horrifying phrase by just saying it out of the blue and terrifying a coworker.

So when I stated that no one had come forward against Jian when I posted my last post on him...well fuck...now 9 women have come forward to the police and 3 have pressed charges. Additionally, the CBC has 'graphic evidence which resulted in physical injuries' -- and the women have all stated that these acts were not consensual.   9 women is a lot of crazy girls all ganging up on one guy...1 girl I can believe...2 crazy girls maybe...but 9 way over the top.  So the odds of this being real is unfortunately likely.  Additionally, Jian has also gone missing and no one knows where he is. Also not the best indicator of innocence.

So yeah, while I did pad my original post on Jian with a disclaimer or two about consent being
important and I gave him the benefit of the doubt...apparently I was mistaken. Instead, this tool is giving the BDSM community a bad name buy being a complete douche Dom.  He probably read 50 Shades of Grey and was all, I can do that as I lack all skills but...whatever.   (Aside: I have still not read 50 Shades of Grey... but it came out over a decade or so after my first BDSM experience so I think I'm good.)

The Ghomeshi Workout
The take away from this is...consent people!! For fuck sakes! Make sure everyone wants to play! You don't go over to someone's house uninvited and break out your Risk boardgame (or Agricola for those that know good boardgames) and expect everyone to be into playing! You have to fucking ask.  And this is about 10 times more important with BDSM as it involves 1) sex 2) intimacy 3) trust and 4) PERSONAL BODILY HARM.   If you ignore this shit, you are a dick.  You need to be really sure everyone wants to play because it should be fun for everyone. If it isn't -- you need to stop.

(I just did a site search for consent and apparently I have not done a post dedicated to the topic so...I will have to do that -- because people like Jian need guidelines. )

Saturday, 1 November 2014

Women like Porn (Porn Survey Results)

There is a persistent myth out there that women don't like porn and that women are not turned on by visual media in the same way as men are.  This fact is completely wrong and clearly disproven by science however.

With women not being turned on by visual stimulation...it has been shown with magnetic resonance imaging (MRIs) that women actually respond more to sexual images than men. That's right. The sexual areas of the brain light up brighter and significantly faster when women are shown porn compared to men.  In fact, flash a penis on the screen for the briefest amount of time and a woman will become much more aroused than a man who gets shown boobs for 10 times as long.  So the whole idea that women aren't turned on by porn...is a lie. 

This is from a different and somewhat less scientific
survey...but more recent (2014)
Now there are some significant differences in the pornograghy use of men and women.  Men tend to be attracted to more hardcore porn that is completely devoid of any sort of relationship context. Women however prefer porn that exhibits some form of relationship between the actors and some form of connection. Men prefer porn with a lot of different actors where women prefer the same actors performing different sex acts together. 
While both genders reported about the same usage of porn in the home, interestingly, women where
significantly more likely to use porn outside of the home. 4% of men use porn outside of the home where 3 times as many women use porn not at home (13%) when they masturbate.  Men were far more likely to use porn magazines (barely any women used) and women were way more likely to use pornographic literature. However, the study had a strict use of pornography and it had to explicit -- so things like romance novels and even Playboy and Penthouse were excluded as not being graphic enough.

 But the most common useage for both genders was internet and smartphones.
But how often do women use porn? 48% of women under 30 were found to have used in the past month (compare that with 82% of men.)   In fact, the average useage of porn per week for women was 21.9 minutes.  Also, women were a more than twice as likely to bit more likely to use porn with a partner (2.5% of men used with a partner vs. 10.8% of women...which seems a little off even including women using with their girlfriends...as gay guys do that too. )

80% of women watched porn with vaginal intercourse vs. 74% of men. 
17.2% of women watched porn with anal intercourse vs. 28.5% of men. 
16.4% of women watched porn with blowjobs vs. 28.5% of men. 
30.3% of women watched porn with one woman and multiple men  vs. 12.7% of men. 
46.3% of 'straight' women regularly watched lesbian porn vs. 12.8% of 'straight' men watching gay guys 
Again, info from a different, 2014 survey

So that's a huge difference with women 3x more likely to watch group sex with more than one guy and 3.5x the 'straight' girls watching lesbians porn vs. 'straight' guys watching gay porn. 

Now there was also a significant correlation found with the age pornography exposure and the
frequency of masturbation and use of pornography (these were all highly correlated). Women exposed to porn before 15 years old tended almost all use porn while those exposed after this (and into adulthood) did not.  I say this as the study was on 1000 adults aged 18-30 but the past 10 years has seen a major drop in the age of exposure of both boys and girls to pornography. The average age of porn exposure for girls in this group was about 15 years old and that average is clearly dropping -- with now the average porn exposure is between the ages of 10 and 14 with 90% of girls now viewing porn before the age of 15.  This predicts that porn usage amongst women is about to skyrocket -- as girls are now being exposed in their formative sexual years.

Finally, 3% of women use porn on a daily basis but of these, it is highly UNLIKELY that will use porn just once --female daily porn users are almost always using porn multiple times a day with average numbers between 5-20 times a day...as women can obviously cum A LOT more than guys!

This is from the UK's Daily Mail (2014)