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Thursday, 31 March 2016

Sex Education: Lies and what should be Taught

Sex education in schools is still a controversial topic, despite the fact that many kids are having sex and the vast majority of them have viewed porn and have easy access to the internet.  So why do we resist teaching them properly about sex?  And what should we teach our kids?

Some parents object to to exposing children to new ideas that can't be unlearned.  Well fuck-a-duck! Is that not the point of education? I mean, you can teach them shame in your own home all you want...but I think every child has the right to the real facts.


Is it that the kids don't want information or to be exposed to this material? Not at all! The kids are enthusiastic.  It's the parents that have the issues.  And that is EXACTLY why we need to educate children properly in schools: parents will pass on their own issues, shame and embarrassment.  This is a cycle deeply in need of breaking.

Also, lets be honest: how much did you learn about sex from your parents???!?   How much teaching
is actually going on there? I'd say I learned approximately 0.0001% of what I know about sex from my parents.    Of course, I know a fuck-ton more than most people.  But the only thing I can recall 'learning' is that you should always use condoms or you could get the girl pregnant...and I think I already understood that and how condoms worked, before that obvious tidbit was passed on. So did I really learn anything at all from them? I do recall my eyes being covered when breasts were on the movie screen...so that's awkward and taught me that breasts were somehow bad. Worse that seeing a decapitation in the same movie (no hands over my eyes for that!)

Now exactly what we teach children should be discussed.   Parents are often wanting to ban teaching kids about homosexuality, oral sex, anal sex and even masturbation.  Well fuck-a-duck! Why the hell would you want to teach them any of that 'deviant stuff' when you can let them watch all of that in their very first porn movie.  You might as well put things into perspective for them.  Those are completely eliminated from many school curriculum which, to me, is like teaching math but not mentioning multiplication.

There is also the movement towards 'abstinence only' education which has is not sex education at all (for starters) and is proven to have higher STI and teenage pregnancies where it is taught...so I would eagerly declare this a proven FAIL and say let's move on to something that works. Unless you want your son to catch gonorrhea and your daughter to get pregnant...which would be rather odd parenting goals.

But abstinence only also teaches children that sex outside of wedlock leads to an unhappy life and that it's okay to slut shame girls.  Life lessons being taught like 'the girl who says no is the one you pursue' is so full of fail that parents that teach this should be given mandatory homosexual golden showers (just because they'd hate it so much they'd want to die -- unlike the cool parents who'd be into it).  

And what age do we start teaching? If some children are reaching puberty at ages 8 or 9...that is going to release hormones in their bodies which activate their sex drive and interest in sex.  So saying that teaching 11 year olds about sex isn't appropriate is completely denying biology and leaving these kids lost, alone and utterly confused for years. Or pregnant.

Perhaps my biggest objection to current sex education is the LIES.
Here's the Top 10 LIES Taught in Sex Education Classes:

lies-in-school1) sex acts aside from penis in vagina could result in a sexually transmitted disease magically
appearing in 2 virgins???
2)  How about 1 in 6 sexual encounters with a condom result in pregnancy??
3)  Condoms cause cancer??
4)  Each time you have sex with someone new you lose more of your personal value and worth?
5)  Gonorehhea can kill you within 3 days???
6)  Boys have no self control around a girl who is wearing something too revealing??
7)  It is illegal to have premarital sex??
8)  birth control pills cause abortions??
9)  abortions lead to infertility??
10)  IUDs are only for people that have already had kids

All of the above is blatant bullshit. Well, mostly.  1) could happen if an STD was passed on to the child during pregnancy/childbirth (eg. HIV or herpes) 6) I am guilty of this sometimes but most guys I've seen are big wussies unless they are drunk in these kinds of circumstances  7) In Saudi Arabia this is true.   So yeah...basically this is complete crap that should not be taught and certainly should there is more useful information that could be conveyed in these very short lessons!

Some stuff that should be taught:
high-quality-sex-ed1) IUDs work great all the time and one they are in, you can be protected without worry for years!
(from pregnancy)  IUDs are by far the cheapest form of birth control, last around 5 years after being inserted and have the lowest pregnancy rate of any form of birth control aside from sterilization.
2)  Pulling out is still WAY better than cumming in her for the odds of getting her pregnant.  Think about it like this: how many lottery tickets are you going to purchase so you are in the draw to will a baby?   Pulling out before cumming is way better than shooting your load inside of her.
3)   The birth control pill makes your period lighter, reduces acne, has no effect on your weight, lowers your chances of getting cancer, doesn't require breaks, doesn't effect your long term fertility, and can be used by women over the age of 35 (yeah, basically I am shattering a lot of myths about the Pill here).
4) How to talk about consent, condom use, and STIs.
5) Explaining things about sex toys, types of lube and TYPES of condoms -- as the bulletproof super thick, unlubed condoms they hand out in school are bullshit!
6) Oral sex is great and won't result in pregancy
7) Talk about porn and how sex is different than what is viewed in porn -- for example: men don't always pull out and cum on her face...girls in general a not big fans of this and it feels way fucking better to cum inside of her!  The 'cum on her face' shown in porn is there because you CAN'T show the guy cumming inside of her...it doesn't read on camera at all because it is entirely hidden.  Well...there is creampie porn.  
need-for-better-sex-education8)  Girls are big fans of average sized dicks.  There is a reason it is average size. It feels best.  I've heard complaints about guys being too big and it hurting -- giant cocks can actually bash ovaries painfully -- and a smaller cock is better for anal sex (much to my chagrin :/  )
9) It is totally natural and normal to want to have sex...for both guys and girls.
10) There are many different sexualities -- including bisexuality which is more common than purely straight or purely gay -- as most people try something at some point with the same gender.  And some people choose to be bi because they like all the options presented to them. At least the hot options ;)

It is worth noting that the United States is the only developed country that teaches abstinence only sex education.  Every other country has see how ineffective it is. For me, the best education should be provided by sex positive people who are totally comfortable talking to kids about sex without making it weird.

Wednesday, 30 March 2016

7 C's of BDSM

Yup...there's 7 of 'em ;)

The 7 C's of BDSM

1. Consent
Life is complicated enough without talking to your partner or playmate.  Just talk and tell them what you want to do or have done to you.  And only do the things that you agree upon. It's pretty simple but avoids all kind of hurt feelings.  Consent is especially important in new relationships and between people new to BDSM. And it's only noobs that say they don't have limits. Trust me, you have limits and you might as well draw the line so everybody is on the same page.

2. Communication
Communicating is super sexy.  And we are humans -- it's kind of our thing. Negotiating about what you want done can build tension and open the door to many new experiences.

Also, communication lets you have realistic expectations of each other.  Always under promise and over deliver. If all you are offering is being a fuck buddy and she's thinking she's found 'the one' -- then a bit of communication can save you from her burning all your stuff on the front lawn as she throws a crazy not-gf-but-really-wants-to-be-your-wife tantrum.

You can also talk about experiences and desires.  I spoke with this one girl who was obviously a pain slut and we exchanged a bunch of pretty hardcore texts -- and so I was completely stunned when she said that she had zero BDSM experience.  Good to know!  Thinking she's super experienced could get us both into a lot of trouble.

3. Creativity
You have to mix it up.  A girl attracted to BDSM is into it because she's down with the mind fuck and
all the evil ways you can abuse her.  She is not down with being fucked the exact same way, in the same position, every time.   This also goes for subs...don't do your best corpse imitation while always wearing the exact same outfit...that is gonna get stale fast.  You have to be creative.

Myself, I never have any problems with creativity. I prefer to go in with no plan and do whatever my kinky mind comes up with at the time. A good example is the other day, I had a shower with a new sub and afterwards I saw the towel laying on the floor.  So I spontaneously rolled it into a 'rat tail' and whipped her with it.  (But I did not dip it in water as the last time I did that, it broke the skin and caused far too much blood to risk with a new playmate.)

The point is, mix it up and have fun doing new things.

4.  Connection
This is one that a lot of vanilla people truly don't get.  BDSM is all about connecting with the other person and sharing an experience which ultimately makes both feel closer and more connected to one another.  Remember that point of BDSM is to bring two (or more) people together and help them become one: to build trust and share. If you always keep this in mind, your playtime is always going to be mutually rewarding.

This can also take the form of cuddles and support afterwards. Providing aftercare to make sure she is okay.  And just being there to support her.   After pushing her really hard, there is an opportunity to deeply connect in a way that creates a lasting bond. A bond felt even if you both go separate ways. And ideally, this feeling keeps you together.

5. Consistency
Simply put, if you make a rule, enforce the rule. Every time.  Don't be lenient as this will just confuse her.  Just like training a dog, you have to be consistent to get results.  If you say the punishment will be 'X' for a transgression,  immediately perform 'X' when the transgression occurs.

6.  Compersion
Ok, this one is for open minded folks.  Compersion is the feeling of joy at seeing your partner with another partner. Known as 'the opposite of jealousy',  compersion is really a feeling of joy in knowing that someone else is making your partner happy.   I can even get this a little bit by seeing her really turned on by someone she likes in porn.  But the point is: jealousy is a worthless reaction when you can support your partner instead.  In a complex BDSM relationship, compersion allows for all sorts of kinky variations and partners to keep her hot and wet.

7.  Compassion
This is a form of love that is aroused within us when we witness someone who is suffering or
vulnerable.  It often is a reaction to react tenderly and to act kindly towards that person. In the context of BDSM, it is aroused when you see your sub suffering and taking the pain for you.  You look at her and you heart reaches out to her -- because she is accepting the pain I inflict to serve me. She is offering this to me, not because she an inferior person but because she is strong and generous.  It is absolutely vital to appreciate the gift of submission that your sub is offering you -- as her vulnerability should ultimately soften your heart as she is giving you the greatest gift she has.

Tuesday, 29 March 2016

Kinky Days of the Week

You often use the days of the week incorrectly. Here's the days of the week as they were meant to be: kinky:

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The commonly accepted days of the week have some bullshit Roman origin story which rivals Ultra Boy for worst origin story ever. (Ultra Boy got his powers by being swallowed by a space whale and somehow got the exact same powers as Superman because...laziness.)

Thursday, 24 March 2016

I am a Sadist

I'm a sadist.

You might think that means, "I am heartless and unfeeling".  A sadist isn't (necessarily) a sociopath unable to sense or appreciate emotions or to feel them himself.  Nothing could be further from the truth. I love seeing you in pain because it opens you up to me.  It makes you vulnerable and yet the relationship is tender -- and full of trust. It makes me feel alive and connected to you.

It's not that I don't care about you. It's that I crave to see you at my mercy...so that can possess you more fully.  If I don't care about you...I won't want to hurt you.  If I do, I will crave seeing those cute little tears streaming down your face.  And it also makes me open up to you. You see, I too am vulnerable when I am inflicting pain.  I can't share this with everyone...barely 10% of girls get it at all.  But you do.  And that makes me melt.

As I beat you, I feel like I can trust you more.  That I can share this deep, dark, perverted part of myself. I need to know that its ok. No, I need to know that what I want is what you deeply desire -- as it makes me feel a real connection with you. My thoughts of abusing you and torturing you as what you crave too. And that's what makes you mine...and makes me addicted to you.

I crave for you to say to every one of my perversions...so that I may feel whole and at one with you. Never telling me 'no' but instead filling my ears with enthusiastic 'yeses' is the sweetest gift that you can give. You are a wet little pain slut craving all I can give.

I need to feel your physical pain -- because I thrive on it. But it has to be pain that I control. I common misconception is that sadists like all pain.  But if you slip twist your ankle and hobble about...that pain sucks for me. That's bad pain.  Good pain is me clamping your pussy so tight and then harshly knocking the clips of your cunt with a whip so marks are left and you are sore for days.  That's good pain...because it is pain from me. Pain that you know is controlled by me. Inflicted by me.


The more you trust me, the more you allow me to do. And the more I can DO to you.  It's win-win, really.   I feel just as energized by your tears as you do.  But again, I don't crave the tears flowing from things uncontrolled, from emotional pain -- though I suppose that's just me. I am sure there are emotional sadists out there...but the only tears I want to see from you are from physical pain. And when the tears are flowing like rivers and your are completely opened up and vulnerable...that is when I want to fuck you most.

I want to see your eyes filled with tears...and fear...as I enter you and consume you entirely. I want you to feel like you are my prey and can do nothing at all to stop me, ever.  And I won't stop.

And that's exactly what you asked for.

Monday, 21 March 2016

Conquests

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Poor taste? Nah, it's that's a Hugo Boss suit.
Some guys see having sex with a new person as a 'conquest', another medal on their chest or notch on their belt.  These boys have no idea what conquest really means.  Having sex with a girl one time is easy.  Getting her to turn everything she has and is over to you...that is a true conquest.  I don't want to fuck her...I want to own her.  I want to have her pussy quivering and dripping wet for me anytime I want -- because she have been trained to crave me.

Fucking her is like...a tourist visiting a country.

I want to invade like Mongol horde and occupy the territory like the SS.  It will take an allied army to displace me.

Tuesday, 15 March 2016

Weirdest Sex Laws


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More on my Sex and the Law series...so weird sex related laws:

In Hong Kong, the law states that a woman has the right to kill her husband if she catches him cheating...but only if she kill him with her bare hands.

In Russia, Vladimir Putin put a law in place that makes it illegal to tell children that gay people exist.

In Liverpool, UK, it is illegal for a woman to be topless: unless she is working a clerk... in a tropical fish store.

In London, UK,  you can't have sex on a parked motorcycle :'(

In Lebanon, it is legal for men to have sex with animals...as long as the animal is female.

In Samoa, it is illegal to forget your wife's birthday.

In Santa Cruz, Bolivia, you can't have sex with a mother and daughter at the same time :'(

In Cali, Columbia, mothers are required to watch their daughters lose their virginity on their wedding night. (it's lucky this isn't also in Santa Cruz!!)

Weird American Sex Laws
In Oxford, Ohio it is illegal for a woman to strip naked while looking at a photo of a man.

In Minnesota, it is illegal to sleep naked.  Fuck me. I can't sleep in Minnesota??!?

In Arkansas, there is a law still on the books that states, "A man can beat his wife, but only once a month."  This law was first passed in the 1800s which was a time where...a monthly beating was seen as part of a healthy BDSM relationship...but only once a month.

lesbian-prison-guardIn Florida, it is illegal to dream about another man's wife.  This seems like a really hard one to get a
conviction on -- even if you dream about fucking her senseless every night. But is also illegal for a man to kiss his wife's breasts. :'(

In Montana, you can marry your wife via a proxy if you are in the military. That means that a buddy can 'marry' your wife for you if you can't attend the wedding yourself.

In South Carolina, it is illegal to make a wedding proposal if you don't really mean it -- as long as you are over 16.

In both Virginia and Wyoming it is illegal to tickle women.

In Washington, it is illegal to have sex with a virgin under any circumstances... including her wedding night.



Wednesday, 9 March 2016

Why Monogamy is Ridiculous

Here's a video by Dan Savage (a very successful love and relationship columnist who writes "Savage Love" -- which is often hilarious)  and he speaks about why he things monogamy is ridiculous. I agree with him, but of course, I have penned other articles on Polyamory so I have certain leaning and he's really preaching to the choir.  Basically he says: men have long been non-monogamous for most of recorded history. But women were treated as 'property' and tied to a single man so that he would know who his heirs were.

Then over the last 60 years or so women gained more right and the idea of marriage for romantic love as the primary reason for marriage came into its own.  But instead of granting women the equal rights of men -- we went the wrong way and shackled men with the limitations we had previously placed on women.  With disastrous results.


Monday, 7 March 2016

Complete Guide to Sex

This complete sex guide includes lots of good tips and fact that are useful -- and it is presented in a straightforward, no nonsense sort of way. It's a great guide to sex for those curious people out there who are just dipping their toes in the water for the first times and if you are just beginning your sexual career, you should definitely watch this.  But more experienced fuckers out there could definitely learn a thing or two as well.

Other stuff you beginners should know:   if the sex you have doesn't look and feel like porn...don't be in the slightest bit surprised.  If it does look like porn -- it shouldn't.  Not your first times anyway.)  And porn is athletic sex...it's like sport sex.  But that is only one style of many -- and guys, the girl will think it's odd that your constantly changing positions unless it feels right.   

Anyway,  this is a pretty thorough sex guide that is over 4 hours long. ENJOY!

 

Sex Things You Shouldn't Investigate

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The age of the internet allows access to all kinds of sex stuff that you never imagined would be a thing...from clowns, people having sex with balloons or cantaloupes.  people aroused by trees...and of course furries.  But it also means there are a number of things out that once seen, can't be unseen.

Let's start off with something tame.  How about searching "Spider Porn" because if you're not going to search for something....you might as well not for investigate something tame, right?

hottest-underwearAnother tame thing to hold back from  researching would be goatse because apparently some people
don't like looking at this kind of thing.

Another example of things not worth investigating would be googling the images for "Blue Waffle" ...it sounds like a blueberry waffle --- something yummy to eat for breakfast.  But, no, you should not search this one. If you're thinking something yummy to eat for breakfast, it'll be a landmine.

Another sex thing that is so not sexy that you probably shouldn't search it would be 'lemon party'.... you can take you blueberry waffle and squeeze some fresh lemon juice on it, right? Yum!

4 girls!
Hmmm...what else should you never search?  You probably don't want to see "4 girls fingerpaint" because fingerpainting is gross.  It's best not to be curious about this one.

What else could teach you that curiosity killed the cat?  "Tub Girl"... just don't do find the video for tub girl.  I like to see hot babes in the tub all wet and sexy as much as the next guy...but "Tub girl" is a bit much.

Now, a list like this should be obligated to include "2 girls 1 cup" but you already have seen that and know that you shouldn't watch that one.

And my #1 pick for 'what to never investigate is "glass ass"  because this one is the worst.  

Thursday, 3 March 2016

Unexpected Way Porn Changed Female Attraction to Men

Porn has definitely influenced mass culture and experimentally the newly budding sexuality of the internet generation (iGen). By the way, created that name but it seems to fit so well that I am guessing someones already created it ;)   But porn as affected girls attaction to boy in a stunning new way that nobody every expected.

Girls are watching porn more than ever and many are learning to masturbate while using porn too.  This influence as sexuality is developing has had profound impacts on what girl's attractiveness rating (AR) which determines what girls find most attractive.  Girls now tend to place a much high value on statistically improbable penis sizes -- even though they still tend to prefer a penis that is smaller than those typically displayed in pornography.

But the biggest surprise was how girls rate the face and head of guys. Girls are now finding themselves incredibly aroused by men without heads. The biggest determinant of male attractiveness is their 'headless rating'.   "If I see a guy has no head, I mean, WOW!" says Jennifer from University of Iowa.  "I just can't seem to get into guys with faces anymore, you know?  I think it's only fair, if girls have to take the extra care to remove all of their pubic hair, guys should have to make the extra effort as well" says Syracuse University.